Guest lists are something you have to work out first, mainly because venues have a capacity depending if you’re doing cocktail style or sit down meal. So you need to know if the venue your even looking at is going to accommodate the people you want to celebrate with.
We got asked why we were doing a guest list so early when our plan to be wed
wasn’t for another two years.
Now we know numbers will change, people will probably change but we did it off
if we were sending out our invites tomorrow. This gave us an idea of what our
round up number would be and can base venues and budging off that max number.
For us its 90. Mainly because the first venue we looked at caters only to
90pax. But also to keep costs down.
But deciding who those 90 people would be was hard. We wrote a list of the
definite yes, but the most important questions were, have we spoke to them in
the past year? No. not invited.
Are they a good vibe? No. Not invited.
When there’s drama or issues around people who like your
future husband but are not very nice to you were hard. We had to discuss how to
address these as I knew I wasn’t wanting anyone who would just come to our
wedding to talk badly about myself, but hug and congratulate me to be there.
Which was why our main motto is, do they bring good vibes.
Being on a facebook wedding discussion has been so helpful as well. Honestly,
facebook groups slap hard! I thought they were just for older people etc but
the wedding ones are a must if you are engaged. The community, the questions,
the recommendations not only help you feel less alone in your issues but open
you up to ideas you never thought of.
A lot of people have problems when it comes to invites and how to not invite
people. And we are choosing to invite some people In a household and not others
so learning how to word that through others that have done the same is super
helpful.
But the biggest piece of advise that is shared constantly is that it is your
wedding! So although there might be opinions from others that you have to
invite this person because of this reason. If it doesn’t sit well with you, say
no.
Its okay. This is yours and your future husbands or wives day. And my most
important piece of advise is unless the person telling you this other person
should be there is paying for the extra guest that wont bring you good vibes,
then it’s a no.
Don’t be scared to say no. Yes there might be backlash and
drama, but just think on the day when you are stood saying your vows surrounded
by people you love, it all wont matter.
