You’re not alone.
Ive re-wrote this blog about three times now because I simply cannot find the right words to portray an important message.
I think its super important to know you’re not alone in situations and this one especially as I have always felt alone in my journey of cutting a toxic person out of my life however, recently I have discovered that I am not. I’m sure there are more people out there just like me.
Cutting people out of your life is one of the hardest things to do. Whether it’s a friend, partner or family member it takes guts. And if you are going through it, or thinking about it just know it takes all the strength within you to do it.
It took a build-up of events and feelings over 4years to cut someone out of my life and even though it’s nearly been 4years since that decision it is still hard. I cut someone out that is considered an important player in everyone’s life, so I get asked about them a lot. It took me a long time to feel okay and feel essentially, nothing, when answering questions about them. I remember the first year being the hardest, as everything tends to be within the first year. But once you get past the first year you start to heal a wound that they just kept picking at.
You will suddenly feel lighter for the weight you carried around has gone. I don’t know if I will ever 100% heal, I still have down moments over why I was given such a shitty person in my life but I look back at how far I’ve come without them and I did it all on my own.
Plus I get to hear stories about how they have not changed and It makes my decision feel like the correct one, as it’s so easy to doubt yourself and they will doubt you too.
As I said before it is the hardest thing you can do but at the same time you will find strength you didn’t know you had and it’s important to remember you’re not alone. People will make comments, my favourite one recently about someone not talking to someone in their life, very similar situation to mine was, ‘they’ll come to their senses one day.’ –note the sarcasm on favourite. Your senses were found when you cut them out of your life. Remember that. No one can comment on this situation due to it being so personal. But sadly some people don’t take that into consideration.
I also think its important to remember its okay to be upset, its been 4years and even now ill sometimes have a little cry over things. So don’t feel like it’s a sign of weakness or you did wrong, but it’s a sign that you’re still recovering and its okay.
Don’t be scared to talk about it, when the time comes you’ll be ready to openly discuss it and not feel anything and you’ll realise how far you’ve come.
Be proud.
Be strong.
Become the person you wanted to be without them around.
I think its super important to know you’re not alone in situations and this one especially as I have always felt alone in my journey of cutting a toxic person out of my life however, recently I have discovered that I am not. I’m sure there are more people out there just like me.
Cutting people out of your life is one of the hardest things to do. Whether it’s a friend, partner or family member it takes guts. And if you are going through it, or thinking about it just know it takes all the strength within you to do it.
It took a build-up of events and feelings over 4years to cut someone out of my life and even though it’s nearly been 4years since that decision it is still hard. I cut someone out that is considered an important player in everyone’s life, so I get asked about them a lot. It took me a long time to feel okay and feel essentially, nothing, when answering questions about them. I remember the first year being the hardest, as everything tends to be within the first year. But once you get past the first year you start to heal a wound that they just kept picking at.
You will suddenly feel lighter for the weight you carried around has gone. I don’t know if I will ever 100% heal, I still have down moments over why I was given such a shitty person in my life but I look back at how far I’ve come without them and I did it all on my own.
Plus I get to hear stories about how they have not changed and It makes my decision feel like the correct one, as it’s so easy to doubt yourself and they will doubt you too.
As I said before it is the hardest thing you can do but at the same time you will find strength you didn’t know you had and it’s important to remember you’re not alone. People will make comments, my favourite one recently about someone not talking to someone in their life, very similar situation to mine was, ‘they’ll come to their senses one day.’ –note the sarcasm on favourite. Your senses were found when you cut them out of your life. Remember that. No one can comment on this situation due to it being so personal. But sadly some people don’t take that into consideration.
I also think its important to remember its okay to be upset, its been 4years and even now ill sometimes have a little cry over things. So don’t feel like it’s a sign of weakness or you did wrong, but it’s a sign that you’re still recovering and its okay.
Don’t be scared to talk about it, when the time comes you’ll be ready to openly discuss it and not feel anything and you’ll realise how far you’ve come.
Be proud.
Be strong.
Become the person you wanted to be without them around.
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